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Of course, talking about «all» men and «all» women would not be serious. We are all very different, and everyone needs something different. Therefore, we are not sharing the rules for winning women, but ideas that are worth thinking about.
Men these days have forgotten how to conquer women. As soon as some woman attracts his attention, the man makes a stand and … starts pouring clichés: “You are so beautiful!” «Why are you alone?» «Let’s go somewhere together», «I’m not like the others.» Surely many women have heard this more than once. It sounds false, insincere, but for some reason it is now so accepted.
According to columnist Anthony D’Ambrosio, men have stopped trying hard in relationships. So he made a list of things they shouldn’t forget.
1. Ji dil be
You should not count on a frantic pressure, you can’t earn points on this. Constantly repeating how beautiful she is, or cutting off her phone around the clock, you will not attract her attention. Slow down. If, on the contrary, you yourself portray inaccessibility and pretend that you do not notice it, then again, you are unlikely to succeed. Both are just manifestations of immaturity.
Instead, be sincere. Be yourself. You don’t have to act like she’s some object you’re trying to conquer. Treat her like a woman whose respect you are trying to earn. Let go of your superficial view, try to understand it better. Just like you, she works, thinks, plans something, builds her life somehow. Show interest in all aspects of her daily life.
Respond to her SMS, pick up the phone when she calls. If you do something for her, do it from the bottom of your heart. If she interests you, you can learn to appreciate all aspects of her life. And she, in turn, will learn to appreciate and respect you, to trust you.
2. Bawer be
Confidence is shown in your words, and even more so in your actions. She hears it in your voice, sees it in your eyes, feels it in your movements. In a way, your behavior tells her, “I am the man you need. I intend to make you mine.» She will feel it immediately, even without words.
Although there are always obstacles in life, do not allow yourself to focus on the thought that you will lose it. Instead, be proud of how you feel about her. Let her have no reason to look for someone else. If you suffer from insecurity and jealousy, you will only achieve that push her away from you. You will destroy all chances of building a healthy relationship. So stop worrying about other men.
There will always be someone prettier, smarter, more successful than you. If you think about it all the time, you will never be satisfied with yourself. You yourself will not be happy, and you will not have the resources to make her happy. Even if she gives you very little time, it is still a kind of manifestation of interest. Be confident and use what is given to you.
3. Xweser bin
The older we get, the more structured our lives become. Every day we have planned, and in most cases we do not have enough time to do everything. Take a break from this crazy schedule, allow yourself a little spontaneity.
No need to plan a meeting — just call her and offer to go, for example, to the mountains to meet the dawn, or walk around the city all night, organize a picnic in the park, take her to her favorite play or jazz concert. There is a whole world around us that can be discovered outside of any schedule.
The best moments in life often happen by themselves, and we cannot predict them. Standard dates are a little boring, come up with something more original.
4. Show respect
Men often forget that a woman should not be treated as «their boyfriend». She deserves a different attitude. The first rule: never swear with her, do not say hurtful words — it’s disgusting. Do you really wish someone would ever talk to your daughter like that?
Hold the door in front of her, help her sit down at the table by pulling up a chair. Do not build all relationships on sex — show that she herself is important to you, that she is not a sex object for you. Opening up to each other on an intimate level is one of the most exciting parts of a relationship in general.
You create the connection that will fuel your passion. And then sex is no longer just sex, but something much more. She will be encouraged to have such respect shown to her, and her desire will only grow stronger.
5. Be interesting to her
Let women correct me if I’m wrong in saying that they are attracted to erudite, well-spoken men. Intelligence is the most powerful weapon in your arsenal.
Try to learn something new every day, deepen your knowledge in the area that interests her. When it becomes part of your life, you can dream together, make plans, invent your future life and turn your ideas into reality. Fill your conversations with meaning. Talk about what motivates and inspires you.
Of course, you can attract someone with appearance or a solid bank account, but you can only conquer the soul with your personality.
6. Bi sebir bin
As you know, the quieter you go, the further you will be. Women find patience sexually attractive. You seem to be saying: I am ready to wait, because you are worth it. It is important to remain sincere and honest, to show respect for her, to appreciate her as a woman. Then, perhaps, you will receive a long-awaited prize. And if not, then so be it, this is also normal. Every moment of life is our experience, there is no need to discard it.
7. Be a man
The world is full of men who live without passion and without purpose. They do not want to be vulnerable and therefore are afraid to open up to a woman. They seek out the most attractive women and try to win them over by pretending to be someone they are not, only to be used and abandoned when another equally beautiful one appears on the horizon. Sometimes they come back and swear that things will be different now.
And it’s always a lie. In fact, this behavior does not make you a man — it makes you an insecure loser. Therefore, if you want to achieve exactly her, then appreciate her, respect her, help her grow, support her, tell her how good she is. If you feel like you’ve already done your best, do something else. If you can’t, don’t waste your time, and most importantly, her time.
In the end, it doesn’t matter How long money you have or how attractive you look. What matters most is whether you can make her feel special. Then there is a chance that she will fall in love with you without a memory. And when it does, keep winning it over and over again.