Psychology

Hirçên Teddy, milên gulberojan, qutiyên şîrîn ên di şiklê dilan de… Taya beriya cejnê dê di demek nêzîk de bajaran bigire. Ev roj ne tenê lêçûnên nehewce provoke dike, lê di heman demê de kesên ku niha tenê ne jî tîne bîra xwe: hûn di pîrozbahiya jiyanê de zêde ne. Ji ber vê yekê, dibe ku hûn dev ji betlaneya zalimane berdin an kevneşopiyên wê biguhezînin?

Whether we like it or not, Valentine’s Day is just around the corner. While some are looking forward to a marriage proposal and a diamond ring to boot, others (a small but active minority) propose to cancel all this turmoil. Well, if not canceled, then at least set age limits: we will allow this holiday to be celebrated until the fourth grade — at this age, children give «valentines» to everyone who sits in the neighborhood. Well, if you really want to, you can return to the holiday after sixty.

Lê her kesê din çi ye? Em ê bêyî wî baş bikin.

Rahêner û pisporê hevjînê Jay Cataldo bi bîr tîne: “Danînên valentine di zarokatiyê de kêfxweş bû. Lê bi salan, ez ji hezkirina vê cejnê ketim. Bi dîtina min, ew li şûna ku wan xurt bike, tenê di têkiliyan de pirsgirêkan çêdike. Di vê rojê de zewac ji ber hêviyên ku pêk nehatine, diqewime. Wekî din, roja ku ew dixuye ku di 364 rojên mayî de nebûna romansê rewa dike. Û ger kesek we tune be, wê hingê nihêrîna zewacên ku dimeşin û kulîlkên ku ji hevkaran re têne şandin tenê xemgîn dibe. Cejn vediguhere fuara vala.”

Cejn dihêle ku mirov bifikire ku jiyana wan nagihîje asta romantîzmê ya pêwîst.

Mêvandarê radyoyê Dean Obeidalla jî dipejirîne: “Ez hez nakim ku ez zextan li min tê kirin. Bazirganî û danasîna li firotgehan îlhamê didin: heke hûn beşdarî vê yekê nebin, wê hingê hûn ne romantîk in û ji nîvê xwe yê din re eleqedar nabin. Ew çêtir e ku kevneşopên vê betlaneyê biguherînin. Yên ku cotek hene bila diyariyan bidin kesên tenêtî da ku di vê rojê de xwe zêde hîs nekin.

For the owner of the restaurant, Zena Pauline, this holiday is doubly unpleasant: not only is she not married, but also the restaurant’s visitors on this day especially often find fault with the service. “It’s February outside, it’s cold outside, you don’t have a couple, you’re not in the best shape. You have been unsuccessfully trying to change something for several months. And all this is accompanied by a «parade» of happy couples. Valentine’s Day only humiliates single people.»

Three years ago, as a protest, Pauline introduced a special «No» menu to Valentine’s Day.» It includes such items as, for example, the “Unfortunate Betty” cocktail and the hot “Without a pair of your own free will”.

Civaknasa Zanîngeha Rutgersê Deborah Carr ku li ser têkiliyên zayendî lêkolîn dike, sedema dijminatiyê wiha vedibêje: “Cejn dihêle mirov bifikire ku jiyana wan nagihîje asta romantîzmê ya tê xwestin. Tewra yên ku jin û mêr hene, heke bi awayê ku ew dixwazin neyên pîroz kirin, dibe ku xemgîn bibin. Ji bo pir kesan, ew tenê pirsgirêkek e. Tenê bi kêrî xwaringeh û çêkerên kartpostalê tê.”

Bi dîtina wê, di van salên dawî de ji ber mezinbûna populerbûna torên civakî, tişt xirabtir bûne. Niha her kes hewl dide ku bandor bike. Kes dê wêneyek xirab an diyariyek xirab ji dikanek li dora quncikê bişîne.

It was the news feed on Facebook (an extremist organization banned in Russia) that overwhelmed the patience of graphic designer Scott Manning. A few years ago, he was trying to recover from a breakup with a girl, and then the holiday came. The entire tape was full of bouquets and public declarations of love.

Dîrokek di Roja Evîndaran de ji bo têkiliyek nûjen pir ceribandinek e.

As a joke, Manning registered the page and named it «Petition to Cancel Valentine’s Day». People leave there biting messages and ironic pictures on the theme of the holiday. The author receives mixed reviews. Some want to organize a real rally on the street. Others are furious that Manning encroached on such a wonderful holiday. In fact, Manning cares little about the comments. His page consoles and entertains someone, and this is the main thing.

However, he ran into another problem. He met a girl and accidentally made one of his first dates on Valentine’s Day. Realizing this, Manning panicked. But then they discussed everything and decided that a date that day was too difficult a test for a nascent relationship. So Manning canceled it and decided to spend the day in a more appropriate way: «I’ll stay at home and watch horror movies.»

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