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The compatibility of two people can be determined in many ways based on the personal qualities of the partners. Everyone knows the key compatibility factors: common values, quality communication, mutual loyalty. But the most important factor goes unnoticed — your fighting style.

It is how you fight or argue that determines the strength of the relationship in the future. When both partners are in a good mood, they are not pressured by difficult decisions and everything goes like clockwork — getting along is easy. Problems either strengthen or destroy relationships. This is not accidental — it is at such moments that you see what you should know about a person.

Below is a list of the styles people use when fighting, from the most unfortunate to the most effective. The transition to a healthier style will benefit most couples. But more importantly, both partners use the same style. When people discuss in different styles, the conflict is the most difficult to resolve.

Abstraction

Partners do not discuss the problem seriously: as soon as one raises it, the other switches the topic of conversation. People with this style refuse to acknowledge feelings or opinions that are at odds with their interests. They tend to counter-arguments, get personal, and become aggressive. Usually this is a consequence of the fragile «I» — people can not bear to hear that they are wrong. They don’t even want to think about changing behavior for the sake of another person.

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Such people first suppress feelings, and then lose their temper. They are afraid that others will not notice their experiences or will not attach importance to them. But at some point, they are overwhelmed with emotions, and they “explode”. The reason is simple — people get tired of feeling like their ideas mean nothing. With anger and emotional outbursts, they are trying to prove their worth. Another feature characteristic of such people is that after a breakdown, they quickly forget about it and continue to behave as if nothing had happened.

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Dominant people notice the emotions of another person, but do not listen to them. Instead, they find roundabout ways to convince the opponent that his emotions are wrong or based on wrong information. Dominant style people usually lack empathy. Although they themselves, as a rule, are emotional and vulnerable people. That is why they do not want to admit that they did wrong or offended someone. The appearance of Narcissus protects the sensitive person from the outside world.

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People with this style have one goal — to achieve a compromise. Painful pride is not typical for them, so they calmly accept other people’s arguments and express their point of view in response. Such people control the tone of the voice and keep themselves well in hand. They use special tricks to keep the discussion from getting out of hand: for example, they take a break in the argument or take notes as the conversation progresses. Partners who used different styles in the past, but have learned to communicate better over time, most often come to the assisting style. If one of the couple is inclined to this style initially, it is not easy to convince the other to use the same techniques.

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Free communication is the ultimate goal. In this style, both people feel comfortable enough to express emotions right at the moment they arise. People of this style understand their feelings well and are able to accurately express them, which helps the partner understand them. Controlling tone of voice and irritability is essential to successful free communication, and couples usually learn this by mastering the facilitation style. People who use the style of free communication do not always avoid problems. However, they are the easiest to overcome difficulties in relationships and reach a compromise solution in which everyone feels heard.